Six Stone Love Test

How do we know that our love deep enough to lead us
side by side toward a lifetime, which leads to loyalty
perfect? How can we be sure that our love is mature enough
to be bound and the promise of marriage vows for a lifetime together
till death do us part?

First, test to feel something together.
Want to feel true love together, giving, extending his hand.
True love thinking about the other party, rather than thinking about themselves.
If you read something, have you ever thought, I want to
share this with my best friend? If you are planning something,
there you just think about what you want to do, or
what will please the other side? As Herman Oeser, a
German writer once said, "Those who want to be happy
themselves, do not marry. Because of the importance of marriage is to make
the other party happy. - Those who want to understand the other hand,
not married. Because the important thing here is to understand
partner. "So the first litmus test is:

"What we could both feel something? Do I want to be
happy or make others happy party? "

Second, test the strength.
I once received a letter from a man who falls in love, but it was
troubled heart. He had read somewhere, that the weights
someone will be reduced if people really fall in love.
Although he himself devoted all her love, she does not
weight loss and this is bothering him. Indeed
true, that the experience of love can also affect the state
physical. But in the long run true love will not eliminate
your strength, and even contrary will give strength and power
new to you. Love will fill you with joy and
makes you kreaktif, and want to produce more.
The second test case:

"Is the love we give new strength and fills us with energy
kreaktif, we love it or remove the power and energy
we? "

Third, test awards.
True love means also uphold the other side. A
girls may admire a bachelor, when he saw him play
ball and scored many goals. But if he asked himself,
"If I wanted her as the father of my children?", He replied
often be negative. A young man may admire a
girl, she saw being danced. But when he asked the
myself, "if I wanted her as the mother of my children?",
she was probably going to change in his views. The question is:

"Do we really have a high appreciation of the
others? What I'm proud of my partner? "

Fourth, examination habits.
On the day when a European girl who was engaged to come on
me. He was very worried, "I really love my fiance," she said,
"But I can not stand the way she was eating an apple." Thoughtful laughter
filled the room. "Love to accept other people along with
habit. Do not marry on the basis of understanding installments, and thought that
habits that will change at a later date. Likely
it will not happen. You must accept your partner as it is
along with all the habits and shortcomings. Question:

"Are we just love each other or like each other too?"

Fifth, test fights.
When a young couple coming couple say they want to get married, I always
ask them, if they ever really occasional fight
- Not just a small difference of opinion, but really
like a war. Often they replied, "Ah, never, sir,
we love each other. "I told them," Bertengkarlah
first - only then will you kukawinkan. "The problem of course, not
argument, but the ability to reconcile each other again. Capabilities
This must be trained and tested before marriage. Not sex, but the litmus test
which is pertengkaranlah experience "needed" before
mating. Question:

"Can we forgive each other and gave each other?"

Sixth, examination time.
A young couple came to me to be married. "How
long you love each other? "Ask me. "It's been three, almost four
week, "they replied. This is too short. I think at least one
so-so years. Two years is better. It's good for each other
met, not just on holidays or the day of the week with
dressed neatly, but also at work in the life
day-to-day, time has not neat, or shaving, still wearing T-shirts,
not wash my face, hair still tousled, in a tense atmosphere
or dangerous. There is an old saying, "Do not marry before
experience summer and winter together with your partner. "
If you are in doubt about the feelings of love, the time will
provide certainty. Ask:

"What we love has passed the summer and winter? Already
long enough we know each other? "

And let me give an obvious conclusion. Sex not
litmus test for love.
"If the young couple couple wanted to have sexual relations to find
whether they love each other, to ask them, "So
tiny love you? "If both of them thinking," Tonight we
must engage in sex - if not my partner will think that I
not love him or that he does not love me, "then fear
will likely fail is enough to banish the success of the experiment.
Sex is not a litmus test for love, for sex would be destroyed when
tested. Try to invent a self-observation of his own brother at the time
brother went to bed. Civil observe yourself, then do not
sleep. Or you sleep, and then no longer be observed
yourself. Was the case with the same sex as a touchstone
for love. Brother test, after that no longer want to love. Or
loving brother, then do not test. For the sake of love
alone, love needs to rein himself in bodily states
to be incorporated into the dynamics of marriage triangle.